Wednesday, October 16, 2013

love yourself first.

this picture isnt necessary....but it is.

i think the ability to love is one of our greatest gifts. it is probably one of my favorite things. not necessarily loving one person but just to love in general. Having been in love and loving the people i do.I feel like i am constantly learning about how it really feels to love and be loved in return. 

i know a few people, who didn't necessarily believe in the need to love. that you should want to love someone or be loved, not necessarily need to. as much as i agree with this. I do think it is necessary to need love..to an extent. Even if you don't think you do. How awful would it be to be surrounded by people who don't feel like they need you in order to be their happiest or best self?

one thing i have been thinking about a lot lately is how your happiness cannot depend on another person. it makes me so sad when girls get this in their head. That being loved is a "heal all." That finding the "perfect boy," is going to magically turn their sadness into happiness. Yes, they might make you even happier but you should be happy on your own as well, right? they arent going to appear and sweep away every little thing that makes you sad. 

you need to learn to be happy with yourself first, before you can be happy with someone else. finding someone isn't going to turn your world upside down. even if you think it is. 

you have to love yourself first. 

I have had the, can't eat, can't sleep love, the kind of love where it doesn't make sense on paper but i didn't even care. the kind of love that consumes you. where you spend every minute with the person and never get sick of them. the love where you want to be with the person just because of how you feel when you are with them. the kind of love that didn't necessarily teach me what love is...but how i wanted to feel when i loved someone again.

And i have also had the love where i didnt really know what it was but i knew i grew to love the person despite our differences but for what they are and who they were to me. the kind of love where it took ending to realize it was best for us to find something else, in other people. that what we wanted might add up, but what we expected to feel was different. the little things, the red flags etc.

i guess what i am trying to say, is i am not looking to settle. i want to have a love that makes me happy, but not because i needed love at the time or because i thought it would make me happier than i was. i want a love that adds to my happiness. as much as i have loved. i havent found that love yet. the one where the stuff on paper and the way my heart feels adds up. it doesn't have to be one or the other. but that love requires me to love myself and be happy with myself first and doesn't expect someone to validate that love. 

love yourself people. so that when someone waltzes into your life ready to love you. you will be even happier.

xoxo,
chlo



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16 comments:

  1. This totally made me think of the quote: “You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”

    So true!

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  2. these quotes are all so perfect. really your entire blog is darling! :)

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  3. I hope you know you inspire me!! xo

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  5. This is really inspiring! I saw your blog randomly and I am really happy that I saw and was able to read your blog because I am really sad today and I felt a lil bit relaxed when I read this post... well, to be honest it's been a week that I am feeling like this.. You know, your blog motivated me to love myself first. :) Thank you! I am hoping to read MORE about your blog sooner or later! Xoxo!

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